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Refined to Reflect the Refiner

June 2, 2011 by Mike Goeke

Instead of working so hard to achieve a change in our circumstances, maybe what we need more is a change in our perspective.

Recently I went through a low time where I found myself struggling in several areas of my life.  As pressures mounted, I did what I am prone to do.  I began to focus on how to change my circumstances.  My brain began to be filled with ideas, plans and schemes designed to get me to a more comfortable place.  And, as usually happens when I try to manipulate my circumstances, I just got more frustrated and less content.

It seems to me that most of us respond to the issues we face in very similar ways – our focus becomes all about changing the circumstances that are troubling us.  Even our prayer life can be all about asking God to ‘fix’ something to make our lives more pleasant.  But while we think our efforts to change our circumstances will make our lives better, the truth is that we just end up exhausted and no more at peace than when we started. Instead of working so hard to achieve a change in our circumstances, maybe what we need more is a change in our perspective.

Recently my pastor defined wisdom, which God promises us if we ask for it (James 1:5), as a change from a human perspective to God’s perspective.  To have God’s perspective on the difficult things in our lives would be to see those things through the lens of God’s design, purpose and way. God never promises that life will be easy, but His word says that He works everything to good for those who love Him.  If we saw every ‘negative’ situation in our lives as a means for God to work ‘good’ in us, maybe we wouldn’t focus so much on manipulating our circumstances to ‘feel’ better.  Maybe, instead, we would begin to see our issues, trials and struggles as opportunities for God to do something transformational in our lives.  And maybe the prospect of God at work in our lives would change us at a level deeper than the surface issues that so often derail us, even when our circumstances never change.

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Tagged with Beauty, Bible, Change, Counseling, Fear, Forgiveness, God, Heart, Jesus, Joy, Lies, Life, Love, Men, Mothers, Pain, Prayer, Relationship, Sacrifice, Sin, Soul, Trust, Truth, Women

Church Claims Homosexuality a Gift, Not a Sin – Jeff Buchanan Responds

May 3, 2011 by Randy Thomas

Photo Credit: Central United Methodist Church

The Central United Methodist Church (CUMC) has decided to launch an advertising campaign saying that being gay is a gift from God and not a sin.  The Christian Post covered the story and interviewed Jeff Buchanan for the Exodus perspective:

Buchanan contends that CUMC’s message “tells people that the only option they have is a gay identity.”

But “people need to understand that thousands of men and women have found there is another way and have found freedom from homosexuality through the power of Christ,” he says.

Even if there was conclusive evidence supporting the theory that people were “born this way,” Buchanan stresses that Christians were called to be “born again.”

“While we may not choose our desires, we do have the ability and responsibility to choose whether or not we act on those desires. Our goal should be living a life that is congruent with Scripture,” he says.

“Genesis describes the fall of man and the permanent effects that sin has on us spiritually, mentally, and physically. Just because something may be inherent does not mean it was intended.”

Despite the outcry of many from the Christian community against CUMC’s campaign, Barnard continues to proclaim that homosexuality is a “gift” and has people come and remain just “as they are.”

Working to accept persons who are gay into the full life of the Church, CUMC is a founding member of the Reconciling Ministries Network, which is the United Methodist movement for gay equality in the denomination.

Two of the volunteer staff members at their church, including the music director and lead team chair, live with their partners and have served the church for over seven years.

Grieved over the misinterpretation of Scripture and false teaching that is being promoted by CUMC and many other churches like them, Buchanan encourages churches to deliver the message of Christ with love and grace, but also with accuracy and uncompromised truth.

“We must always remember that authentic love is built upon a foundation of grace and truth.”

Tagged with Christians, Church, Community, ECA, Encourage, Exodus International, Finding Freedom, Gay, Homosexuality, Jeff Buchanan, Life, Love, Scriptures, Sin, SSA, The Christian Post, United Methodist

Identity Matters – Letter from Alan Chambers for March 2011

March 16, 2011 by Alan Chambers

This letter from Alan Chambers appears in both our offline and online newsletters. To receive this letter along with the full newsletter online via email or offline through the postal service please sign up here.

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Dear Friends,

In the last few years Exodus has seen many Christians and churches soften their truth-only response to the issue of homosexuality and instead have embraced Christ’s example of communicating with absolute truth AND grace.  What God is He is fully. He isn’t 50/50 on anything.  He was, is and forever will be complete in everything that He is.  Completely good.  Completely just.  Completely truth.  Completely grace.  For a large segment of Christ’s Bride to become more like Him is a wonderful thing.

Unfortunately we are now seeing a pendulum shift in which some Christians have moved beyond the truth-only stance to embrace a grace-only view.  This shift is affecting how homosexuality is being viewed and is just as damaging as a truth-only response.

First, there are many Christians who now believe that chastity is the only answer for those with same-sex attractions.  They believe that people are either gay or straight and that their identities, in that regard, are fixed.  If someone is gay then the only option, according to these Christians, is celibacy.  Everything else that comes with gay life, however, is acceptable.  So, as long as someone remains sex-free they are able to hang out in gay bars and identify fully as gay.

Here is the problem with that line of thinking.  We are so behavior-driven as Christians that we believe as long as we keep our pants zipped and legs crossed that we are doing well.  Sexual sin is not the beginning of a problem; it is the result of one. While some do fall into sexual sin because of a momentary temptation, the majority of individuals stay in sexual sin because it seems to satisfy a deep core, God-given need for intimacy and relationship.  However, sex was never meant to be a substitute for relational intimacy with God, others, or even our spouse.  Sex is a beautiful, natural and godly expression that flows out of healthy intimacy, within the confines of heterosexual marriage.  As our creator, God defines the parameters for sexual expression and intimacy.

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Tagged with Alan Chambers, Bible, Change, Christians, Church, Clergy, Culture, Devotion, Exodus International, Faith, Fear, Friends, Gay, Gay Christian, God, Grace, Heterosexual, Holiness, Homosexual, Homosexuality, Identity, Intimacy, Journey, Life, Love, Marriage, Men, Mothers, News, Redemption, Relationship, Scriptures, Sexuality, Sin, Spouses, Straight, Temptation, Truth, Women

Joe Dallas Debates Soulforce Leader Cindi Love at National Religious Broadcasters Convention

March 3, 2011 by Randy Thomas

From TownHall.com:

NASHVILLE, Tenn. (BP)–Radically different views on Scripture and homosexuality emerged March 1 when a leading conservative Christian and the executive director of a top homosexual group took part in a cordial debate on Christianity and homosexuality at the National Religious Broadcasters convention.

Joe Dallas, a former homosexual and founder and director of Genesis Counseling in Tustin, Calif., and Cindi Love, executive director of Soulforce — a religious homosexual group — agreed on few significant issues during the 90-minute debate but did say such events were beneficial for both sides of the divide. Christian radio talk show host Janet Parshall served as the moderator.

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Tagged with Addiction, Baptist, Bible, Books, Change, Christianity, Compassion, Debate, Exodus International, Gay Theology, Genesis Counseling, God, Gospel, Guide, Holy Spirit, Homosexual, Janet Parshall, Joe Dallas, Respect, Scriptures, Sexuality, Soulforce, The Complete Christian Guide to Understanding Homosexuality, The Gay Gospel

Learning From the Past and the Future – Reflections After 2010 Lausanne Congress by Mike Goeke

February 15, 2011 by Mike Goeke
This article was written after the 2010 Lausanne Congress in Cape Town, South Africa
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Learning From the Past and the Future
Mike Goeke, October 2010

This past October, I participated in the Third Lausanne Congress on World Evangelization in Cape Town, South Africa.  I was part of a team representing the Exodus Global Alliance, an international network of ministries helping people find freedom from homosexuality and helping churches address homosexuality with hope and redemption.  During the course of the week, we presented several sessions on issues related to homosexuality and reaching the gay community with the Gospel.  The Lausanne Congress was comprised of over 5,000 delegates and volunteers from all over the world – all gathered to discuss issues related to the evangelization of the nations.  It was an eye-opening event.  In some ways, my eyes were opened in encouraging and inspiring ways.  In others, my eyes were opened in ways that were dark and discouraging.  As I process what I experienced, I believe there is much to take away and much for us to learn as American evangelicals.

I brought many things home from Lausanne, but one thought that resurfaces over and over in my mind is the place that we, as Western evangelicals, find ourselves in the big picture of global Christianity.  I believe that Africa, whose vocal church is generally legalistic and legislatively focused, represents where we have been as the “American” church.  Canada and Europe, whose vocal church is generally highly pluralistic and secular, represent where we are going.  This question resonates in my mind; can we do anything to stop the momentum before we end up in a place where we have either completely capitulated to culture or completely lost our ability to relevantly speak into culture?

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Tagged with APA, Canada, Change, Christianity, Church, Culture, ECA, Exodus Global Alliance, Faith, Finding Freedom, Gay, Gay Community, God, Gospel, Grace, Heart, Homosexual, Homosexuality, Hope, ideology, Jesus, Perseverance, Redemption, Relationship, Scriptures, Sexuality, Soul, Testimonies, Theology, Truth, Worship

How My Heart Changed Toward The Church

February 3, 2011 by Randy Thomas

In my post concerning Ted Haggard’s interview in GQ Magazine I mentioned how before becoming a Christian I genuinely hated Christians.  I mentioned very briefly that the Lord changed my heart (of course) and now I love Christians and the Church. Today, I have taken my place within my spiritual family/home and wouldn’t want to be anywhere else.  My friend Julie said in a facebook message (parenthesis mine):

God is still in the business of healing our disappointed, wounded hearts. I would love to see a follow up about how that (change of heart) happened with you.

Honestly, what happened was a miracle.  I don’t throw that word around a lot because I believe the fact that we can breath air a miracle. Seriously, do you know the biology of how we get oxygen out of air and into our bloodstream to nourish our bodies? It’s amazing.  The fact we can talk, walk, move, sacrifice for the betterment of another, love, relate, communicate, create, serve, worship, sing, sleep, think, think about thinking … all of that is miraculous.  The other reason I don’t throw around the word “miracle” is because of all the weird abuse of the word and much of what is considered a miracle is simply hype or wishful thinking.

Yet, I do consider the event that changed my heart from one of stone cold distrust and animosity to one of sacrificial love for the church a bonafide miracle.

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Tagged with Abuse, Andy Comiskey, Anger, Change, Christians, Church, Conference, Exodus Freedom Conference, Forgiveness, God, Healing, Heart, Holy Spirit, Hope, Prayer, Sacrifice, Scriptures, Sin, Ted Haggard, Trust, Truth, Worship

What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?

May 1, 1994 by Exodus International

Written by Bob Davies

Religious trends during the past few decades have made today’s debate over homosexuality almost inevitable. In a growing number of denominations, the Bible’s moral statements are increasingly seen as irrelevant to our culture. The latest findings of science and an individual’s personal experiences are treated as higher authorities than the Scriptures.

Discussions about homosexuality frequently center around a few isolated Bible passages. Often overlooked is the foundational teaching on human sexuality found in Genesis 1: “So God created man in his own image…male and female he created them” (v. 27).

Jesus based His teachings against divorce on this passage (Matt. 19:4-6). God created man and woman for each other, and ordained sex only in the context of a lifetime commitment. The opening chapter of Genesis explains why fornication, adultery, and prostitution – as well as “homosexual marriage” –are all distortions of God’s original plan for sex.

Some scholars have offered new interpretations for specific biblical passages that prohibit homosexual acts. In the story of Sodom and Gomorrah (Gen. 19), Lot’s visitors demand to “know” the angelic visitors (v. 5, KJV). The explanation that they wanted merely “to get acquainted with” the strangers makes Lot’s response most puzzling: “Don’t do this wicked thing” (v.7). The context supports the traditional interpretation of homosexuality, and other biblical passages link Sodom with sexual immorality and perversion (2 Peter 2:7; Jude 7).

In Leviticus 18:22, God clearly commands, “Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.” Pro-homosexual scholars argue that Christians are no longer under the Mosaic law. But we must carefully distinguish the dietary or ceremonial laws (abolished in the New Testament – Mark 7:19; Heb. 10:8-10) from the moral laws (reinforced in the New Testament and still applicable today –Mark 7:20-23; Matt. 5:27, 28).

Differentiating the two types of laws answers the question, “Why do Christians quote the Old Testament on homosexuality, then ignore the commands that prohibit eating shellfish or wearing clothing of mixed fibers?”

The important distinction between these laws is reflected in the Old Testament penalties for breaking them: Disobedience to the ceremonial laws resulted in uncleanness (Lev. 11:24, etc.), while breaching the moral law meant death (Lev. 20).

The first chapter of Romans is usually considered the most thorough and clear condemnation of homosexuality in the Bible. It also contains the only specific reference to lesbianism. But some people claim that Paul’s statements are “culturally bound,” addressed to first-century believers and therefore not applicable today. But God declares that His moral laws do not change and that His Word “stands forever” (Isa. 40:8).

What did Paul mean when he stated that homosexual acts are “unnatural” (Rom. 1:26, 27)? Contrary to what a person feels is natural? Not necessarily. Many homosexuals say that they have always felt attracted to others of their own gender. But we live in a fallen world; sin has distorted our perception of truth (Rom. 1:18). So what someone feels is “natural” can still be wrong. Paul was referring to the natural order as God originally created it.

Those who practice homosexual acts receive “in themselves the due penalty for their perversion” (Rom. 1:27). Homosexuals reap a bitter harvest of emotional and physical suffering. Though AIDS is not necessarily a direct judgment from God, it certainly is a devastating consequence of sin.

First Corinthians 6:9 mentions “homosexual offenders” in a long list of people who will not inherit the kingdom of God. This passage seems clear –until the discussions begin about the exact meaning of the original Greek word.

Does “arsenokoitai” refer to lustful, uncommitted male prostitution or to a loving, permanent relationship? The literal meaning is “a male who lies with a male.” There are no qualifications. All homosexual behavior is forbidden, no matter what degree of love or lust is involved.

What about Jesus’ silence on this issue? There are many sexual behaviors that He did not address (incest, rape, bestiality). That doesn’t mean they are permissible. Jesus always upheld the Old Testament law (Matt. 5:17-19), which strictly condemned homosexual acts. And He affirmed celibacy as the only legitimate alternative to heterosexual marriage (Matt. 19:12).

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This article originally appeared in MOODY Magazine (May 1994). Copyright © 1994 by Bob Davies. All rights reserved.

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